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8 Things You Should do for Your Daughter
I am a father of two girls, and every day I wonder what I can do for them, so they can have a better future. I have been helping them to…
I am a father of two girls, and every day I wonder what I can do for them, so they can have a better future. I have been helping them to be stronger, independent and most critical, to be happier.
I won’t change the world, but I can try and mainly teach my daughters the tools so they can do a better job than me. I had been studying the importance of the relationship between a father and his daughter.
This relationship is so meaningful that it is one of the main pillars to help my daughter to become a healthy, independent and happy woman.
When does this relationship begin
I’m a father for almost 10 years, and one of the biggest lies I’ve heard about parenting is that the love between a father and his child begins at birth. I remember the moment my eldest daughter was born, my instinct at that moment was primitive, I just wanted to protect her.
The first moment I felt an emotional connection with my daughter was when I was changed one of her many diapers. An intimate and, smelly moment. We were just the two of us, and it was the first time that the primal instinct of protection had been taken over by something more significant; Love.
Our love is built on the daily basis, and it is our choice as parents to grow it or not.
Be responsible for
The two, father and mother, are solely responsible for the education of their daughters, and they both play an essential role in it. As a father, you can’t hide, be intimidated, or be ashamed to actively participate in your daughters’ lives.
I know, you must have heard that a man does not know about a woman, so your daughter’s education is the mother’s responsibility, right? BS!
You have to learn how to enjoy every moment together from birth to adulthood. You are not a provider, a protector, you are the father of a woman to be.
Taking responsibility to build this relationship will allow you to create unforgettable moments with her. Also, provide the role model she will have for a man or a partner.
I gathered 8 things that have allowed me to create a fantastic relationship with my daughters. My goal is to help them on their way to being independent, healthy and happy.
1. HOLD HER HAND
A simple action as taking her by the hand can become an essential factor in the relationship that both will maintain for a lifetime. Feeling your hand gives her the feeling of protection and security that will make her feel safe and secure in the future. No matter what happens, she will know that she has your hand to hold on.
2. BE AVAILABLE TO HER
Remember that our daughters see us as superheroes, and one day, she will discover that you are not perfect, but until then, allow her to live this fantasy. Be her superhero.
They want our attention, and they will do everything to have it. Spend your free time, created moments they will feel loved and respected.
The time you devote today will create the base of the trust and communication between you two.
3. ENCOURAGE SELF-ESTEEM
Encourage your daughters’ self-esteem, not just their physical qualities, but any achievements she has. Remember, do not celebrate mediocrity, she will know that you are “lying.”
Teach from an early age that she can do whatever she wants, and be whatever she wants to be. Help her develop the skills of every dream to be she has, every future fantasy is essential and meaningful for her to make the decision in the future.
She will learn from you that she has control over her destiny. It will help her to define her personality, regardless of what others say to her.
Correct her mistakes, do not scream at her; explain where she went wrong. Stand up for your achievements, and especially say every day how much you love her.
4. CREATE NEW EXPERIENCES
You will have to leave your comfort zone to provide new experiences for her. Allowing her to explore and enjoy new experiences is an excellent way to overcome their fears and to encourage her to live fully.
Go to the beach, mountain, swimming pool, hiking, any activity is part of the things that you can do it together. It will allow you to strengthen your relationship and at the same time, teaching.
Arts and sports are activities that help to educate our daughters, not only to develop new skills but also an opportunity to exchange and to teach or learn together.
6. DON’T BE AFRAID CORRECT
Although it may sometimes seem hard (and it always is hard), it is necessary to correct the mistakes our daughter does during her childhood.
A father that teaches his daughter to take responsibility from her mistakes, help her to become a woman with values. She will be able to recognize when she is wrong and more important to move forward and correct her errors.
7. SHARE YOUR DAY WITH YOUR DAUGHTER
Whenever possible, share your day at work with your daughter. It will be a fantastic experience for both of you.
Allowing her to see your profession closely will increase her admiration and will be a source of inspiration.
She will see how hard you try or how challenging it is to do what you do. She will be proud and understand the effort you will make it every day.
8. TRUST YOUR DAUGHTER
Communication and trust are essential pillars of my relationship with my daughters.
Instead of sowing fear with threats about what you cannot do, it is critical to take advantage of dialogue to teach and be a confidant.
A daughter who feels that she can trust her father will seek not to disappoint him and will make an effort to make wiser decisions and ask us for advice.
Besides all that, setting an example and offering love is the key to help her to be better.
When you least expect it, your daughter will be a woman. Do not wait to take action when it is too late.
Do not waste the limited time you have together.